Check out this utube TED talk, by researcher Dr Kristen Neff on “compassion toward self” and the benefits. She goes on to explain the difference between “self esteem” that is based on being better than someone else, v.s. self compassion. Research on the tangible benefits of self compassion for happiness, psychological health and achievement is discussed.

Her explanation (and numerous studies) are in agreement with the first principle of learning theory: 1.  Behaviors that are followed by a positive outcome increase. And behaviors that are followed by an unpleasant outcome decrease. Makes sense if you think about. If, what you do works,  you’ll do it again. If what you do does not work, than you’ll stop and try something else.

Our brains have evolved to use behavior to effect the world around us and to adapt to changing circumstances. Being kind to yourself as you strive toward change, just works better.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/IvtZBUSplr4“>Dr Neff on compassion toward yourself